Barbara Palombelli enters the workshop of Very truefor the first time accompanied by her daughter Serena Rutelli. Theirs is one special familyFor what enriched with three adoptions. Part of the public has already had the opportunity to meet his daughter, having participated in the Big brotherbut now both have chosen to open up about a delicate subject like adoption. They talked about their relationship, the steps taken to create this much-desired family and their biological parents.
Barbara Palombelli and her daughter Serena: the relationship
The relationship between mother and daughter is excellent. Barbara Palombelli confirms this in Silvia Toffanin’s study, but does not deny that their characters often lead them to clash. The remark the presenter was already Giorgio’s mother but he chose to be a three times more, welcoming Francis and two hours biological sisters Monica And Serena.
Both were in an institute of nuns and the first step was to take them into custody. Palombelli described how they grew up in complete destitution. When she set foot in front of this place, Serena was already 10 years old and she remembers certain injuries well. Both had to endure the presence of a abusive fatheralso suffering the abandonment of mother. Barbara Palombelli had gone there to help a friend, but then something clicked inside her.
In the first phase, that of pre-adoptive family placement, the law requires you to keep your distance a little. This is about protecting minors. A real challenge for Barbara Palombelli and Francesco Rutelli. They wanted to give them a family but nothing is certain in the face of the mountain of the adoption system: “In their case, rebuilding a family was impossible but in others, after being placed, they return to their parents.” But once everything was made official, I quickly heard this special word from the two little sisters: “Mommy.”
Biological parents
As mentioned, Serena and Monica’s biological father was a violent man. He hurt both sisters in the past and he didn’t stop there. Faced with the possibility of seeing the two serene elsewhere, he began to make his voice heard again with a few serious threats: “Today, I speak about him calmly but I was so afraid of him. He was an unstable person and I was afraid he would find us. It was really very violent.
Fortunately, everything went well but the past came knocking again. We are talking about biological mother by Serena Rutelli, who sent him one letter while he was in the house of Big brother. An obviously delicate and very fragile moment for the young woman, who however decided to keep this window firmly closed.
“I think if you give birth to a child, whatever the problems, it is still your child, which has been inside you for 9 months. How can you leave it like that, in certain situations, and then come out after a long time, after seeing that I was in there. A mother is not thatis the one who makes you grow, strengthens you and gives you so much. Not someone who gives birth to you and writes you to Big Brother. What do I do with this thing.
Serena Palombelli then emphasized how her daughters have always been free to decide. Neither she nor Francesco Rutelli ever thought of putting a barrier between the two sisters and their biological parents: “I think that sooner or later they will have to face their past. But it’s their decision.”
However, Serena is sure of the choice she made. He has no intention of forgiving. She explained how her father died, which allows her to speak with more serenity about the period of violence and threats. Her mother is alive but wants her to stay in the shadows and not be part of her life: “I am a ruthless person. It’s my fault. I’m fine, but if you do something to me, I won’t be able to forgive you.”
Big brother
Given her tricky past, Serena recalled how she struggled to open up to her new family. The intervention of an expert medical figure, who guided the whole family towards a certain path, was crucial.
However, past tragedies have also limited his relationships with others, especially strangers. The fact of having set foot in the house of Big brother so it was for her a form of therapy: “I feel more confident. Mom trusted me but Dad was against it. Then he changed his mind.”
Dealing with the cameras and the many forced roommates was not easy. At the same time, opening up about your past and being vulnerable was not. After all, the memories of that time are still alive. Barbara Palombelli explained how, upon arriving home, she had visible psychological and physical trauma: “She was full of tics and showed signs of violencefortunately not intimate, but from forehead to teeth he had marks. It was a little bird that fell from the nest.”
A new family
It is clear from her story, from the tone of her voice and the harshness of certain words, that Serena Rutelli still harbors deep anger for what was done to her: “If you are not capable of being a mother, n don’t have children. “.
Looking to the future, she would like to become a mother. He feels this instinct but the time doesn’t seem right yet. Her mother is very protective and the two immediately look at each other when the subject comes up. Serena left home 10 years ago in just 24 hours, alongside her sister and at the urging of a friend who had found an apartment.
For the past few years, she has been living with her boyfriend and things are definitely serious. Almost four years of dating and now he’s finally okay. However, here is the opinion of mother Serena, who indeed explains the reason for this look: “He is a very shy boy, who does not want to be part of the family. We know him very little. In four years, we met him twice. But we see that she is happy and that’s very good.”